EJ

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How Long You Should Really Stay Single After a Split

I've been on the solo rider hype for awhile. But sometimes I definitely wonder if I should be hopping from bae to bae like a lot of the people I see around LA. I think you can relate with me when I say that dating sucks sometimes, especially when you get hurt. I was browsing around one of my favorite blogs and found some research supporting when the right time is to get back in a serious relationship like 

I'll summarize the research I've seen.


There is No Rush For us to get back out there.

You and I, I'm sure, have felt hurt after a break up. Susan Winter, a famous author and dating expert, tells Elite Daily you should “stay single long enough to have regained your sanity and serenity. If you're still licking your wounds from your breakup, now's not the time to date.” She basically says the ball is in our court when it comes to get back in to the game. We just need to be ready and there is no perfect number of days, months , or years. Basically what she was getting at is we should be able to put that relationship in the "box to the left" as Beyonce would say and we need to be able to walk away from it.

Opposites do not actually attract.

Susan says “You attract the kind of person that matches your energy,”. So if we're feeling down and out... guess what? We are going to choose someone that is down and out. This is definitely one of those "Duh!" moments. I haven't even thought about it this way. 

We will know when the time is to move on.

Winter says we're ready to meet our new bae when “entire hours of time pass without thinking about him or her,” and we should be able to handle any emotions that rise if we saw our X in public. 

 So, trust yourself and take all the time you need. It's going to take time for us to check all these boxes, especially the last one!


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